Yesterday night, we had a nice supper in Susan's room, we boiled the dumplings which we've not eaten for a long time, I ate most of the dumplings, the others ate a little because the dumplings were too greasy. After the the third time of adding water,the dumplings were well done, I took one from the pan and tasted it, at the same time, Susan's brother took a bowl and took some dumplings too, at this moment, Susan jumped up and shouted out to her brother "What are you doing? Do you have any courtesy? Shouldn't you take dumplings for your master firstly? Oh! You took so many, don't you see there're so many people, did you think about others?......". Susan is so angry to her brother's beheavor as her son made a big mistake. We others thought it's nothing but a young man's natural beheavor when he was hungry, just as what we did in spare time.
After her brother left, we all told Susan she's too strict to her brother, and needn't spoke so aggressively, at least in front of so many people, Susan insisted that her brother is not polite and should give him a lession in public, then we agreed with her, but at this time, Brother Wang said " it's right to blame him for his beheavor, but you should do this at the behind of other person, he also has respect and face, what you did have hurted his respect and face, and more, what you did make other people embarrassed. You should take him to the other side and teach him what wrong with him, then he can accept your suggestions, and also don't destroy the happy atmosphere." Right! It's the point of this event, his words reminded me what my mother did in my childhood, when my mother took me out and encountered the same situation, she also stop me with good temper, but on the way back home, she would blame me and critize me with strict tone, I learned more and more from that, and didn't lose my face even I was just a little boy.
It's really a big knowledge to teach somebody, the skills are more important than the sense, it's easy to know the sense, but it's not easy to accept the teaching methods.
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