The family I'm refering is the big family including all the children under my grandmother, my five uncles and three aunts. There's a chinese saying "more people,more power", my family is really a big family,owing many numbers, but what we get from this family is just the oppisite. Now,as the eldest brother, I understand why my father is slower and slower in both speech and thinking, he has to undertake too much pressure from this family, even though his brothers and sisters were all married and established their own family, having their children allready, but they still can't be independent, they are always helpless in front of many unexpected issues/events, my father still has to devote his little salary and energy to this family, my father is so pitful!
There's very few number in this big family can manage their family well, last week I knew my mother that my oldest aunt was somewhat deaf and can't hear well, I can image my father's response, my oldest aunt married very well many years ago, his husband was born in a rich family,her father-in-law is prestigous in their village, many people admire her very much at that time. But some years later, her father-in-law died suddenly, the family lost the backbone and have to live by themselves, later we all knew that his hunband is such uncapable, can't do anything well, at last, they have to move back to their old house and left their present house for charging for rent. They had hard life and need to get some help from this big family, from both money and material.
The other thing is what happened on my aunt Hong, her family is thought as the happiest family in this big family, her husband is very hardworking and treat her very well, this early year he lost his job, but to get more money to afford this family, he chosed to go to another province working, after some month, he got nothing but another woman in the remote place, my aunt was so heart borken and insisted to divorce, it's such a big hit to her and our big family. My aunts and uncles lost their father many many years ago and my father played the role of father all the time, they would pore out all these things to my father, but my father is 53 years old and worked very hard every day, he has no save actually, he has to spend what he got to this big family numbers. He has to worry about his sisters and brothers all the time.
This August, my cousin wounded by somebody in our county, he borrowed money from loan shark, but can't pay back, and got punished by these persons, I called my father what we did, my father told me he went to hospital and left 100RMB to my cousin, he just has this small ability, I'm so sad when hearing it, yes, my old father has nothing left after many years of struggling.
Now my grandmother's health is not good, she always aches here or there, she lives with my mother, my mother has to work in field in daytime and take care of her after coming back from field. As soon as my grandmother is sent to hospital, my father has to take some money to her, even he has no money, he has to borrow money from other where, because he is the eldest son and oldest brother, he is doing as a model.
I don't like this big family, I'll take my mother and father out living with me someday in the future.
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